How To Stick To Your Goals By Asking The Right Questions

Achieving your goals can be difficult. Sometimes life gets in the way and forces you to take a break. Other times you just want to throw in the towel too early. I understand that life events can slow your progress on your goals, but you should never give up on them and here’s why. 

Giving up early will get you nowhere. In fact, it’ll keep you in the same place as when you started. It can be challenging to stick to your goals, but asking yourself the right questions can help keep you going.

What I’ve learned from my own research, particularly in Tony Robbin’s Awaken the Giant Within, is that the difference between successful people and those who aren’t successful is in the questions they ask. Successful people ask better questions and as a result they get better answers. In other words, the quality of your questions can determine the quality of your life.

When you create goals, it’s imperative that you ask yourself quality questions. Quality questions will lead to specific achievable goals and accomplishing those goals will lead to a quality life. If you want some examples of the questions you should be asking when creating goals, check these out.

 

Some men see things as they are, and say, ‘Why?’ I dream of things that never were, and say, ‘Why not?'” – George Bernard Shaw

 

Remember the story of Henry Ford. Well he wasn’t the only one dabbling with the automobile in the early 1900s; there were many others doing the same thing. So what separated Ford from everyone else? Ford asked the right question, “How can I mass-produce it?”

Questions have power. Never underestimate the power of your questions.

From my research I’ve realized something very powerful. There is a simple formula for achieving what you want and here it is. Better questions lead to better answers, and better answers lead to better results. So how do you ask the right questions?

 

Well let’s look at a few goals first to get the wheels turning.

  • Make 1 million dollars
  • Lose 30 pounds
  • Buy your dream home
  • Travel the world
  • Find the partner of your dreams

If you think these goals seem ridiculous, I don’t blame you. If I were reading this a year ago, I would be thinking the same thing. But, now I understand that my only limitation is myself.

In order to give you a better understanding of what the right questions look like, let’s break down two goals.

 

1. Make a million dollars

 

Wrong questions:

“Can I actually do this?”

“Is this even possible?”

 

Right questions:

“How can I do this?”

“How can I make this possible?”

 

The simple shift from “Can I” to “How Can I” is grossly underrated. Let’s go back to Ford, if he said “Can I mass-produce it?”, then he’d be doubting himself. He’d be focusing on if he can do it. Instead he said “How can I mass-produce it?” Do you see the difference? When you say “How can I” it removes the doubt from the question. The difference is that you know you can do it, but you just need to figure out how.

Trust me on this: what you focus on grows. By simply adding “how” in front of “can I”, you’re changing what your subconscious mind is focusing on. You’re no longer focusing on “can I do this”, you’re focusing on “how will I do this.” And when you focus on how, ideas that you’ve never even imagined will begin to pop into your head – you will figure out a way.

 

2. Lose 30 pounds

 

Wrong questions:

“Can I eat this cake and still get away with it?”

“Can I just skip this one day at the gym?”

Right questions:

“How is this cake going to make me feel after? Is it really worth it?”

“How will skipping one day at the gym impact my goal? Will skipping cause me to lose motivation? Will it lead to more skipping?”

 

One of the biggest reasons why people don’t reach their health goals is because they don’t stick to the plan. Do you know what causes them to not stick to their plan? You guessed it! The wrong questions. When you start thinking about ways to eat cake yet still make your health goals, you’re opening pandora’s box. Sooner or later you’ll be sitting down calculating your calories and figuring out how many cheat meals you can slip into your diet.

Instead of figuring out if you can get away with it, figure out what that cake really means to you. Is it really worth cheating on your diet to only feel guilty later for doing so? Are you going to feel accomplished? Are you going to be happy with yourself? I doubt it.

Asking yourself these questions will make you think twice about trying that cake or skipping the gym. As a result, you’re body will thank you later and you’ll feel better about yourself because you’re sticking to your goals.

There are so many other examples of limiting questions, such as “What will others think?”, “Is this even possible?”, “What if I start my diet next week?” and so many more.

These types of questions will only produce doubts in your mind that hold you back even longer. Focus on asking the right questions. Questions that force you to think outside of your comfort zone. Questions that don’t meet the status quo.

These types of questions will get you places and most importantly they’ll build up your self-confidence along the way. When you start asking the right questions and accomplishing things that others said you couldn’t – you begin to feel invincible.

 

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