How To Handle Resistance To Change And Transform Your Life Forever

How many times in your life have you resisted something by talking yourself out of it? Wouldn’t it be nice if you could turn those feelings of resistance to change into something more meaningful? Well you can, and here is how.

Your first step is coming to terms and embracing the fact that resistance does exists in your life. Most of the time we are resisting something without even knowing it.

Turn Resistance Into Freedom

Is it really worth playing tug of war with your feelings?

We experience feelings of tenseness, anxiousness or nervousness, yet we don’t realize that these feelings can actually be the effects of resisting something. So what is resistance and how can we spot it?

Resistance is the act of avoiding, not trusting, not accepting or not embracing something. You know exactly what I’m talking about too. How much longer are you going to push off that much needed “talk” with your partner?

See when you resist something, you are essentially trying to not deal with it. Resistance can come in many forms too. It happens in relationships, which cause us to push the other person away or with our emotions and then we choose to cover them up. It can also happen with change, where instead of embracing it, we fight it and it slowly eats away at us.

The problem with resistance is the longer you wait, the worse it gets. In fact the more you resist, the more it persists. The value of embracing resistance is you are able to turn it into something positive. The only exception where resistance is healthy is when it’s used to avoid toxic people and situations that could cause endangerment.

So if resisting is unhealthy to our happiness, why do we choose to resist things instead of embracing them? The answer is fear. We resist things, mostly because we are fearful of the outcome.

As humans we especially fear the unknown.

Resistance is often used as a strategy to avoid what we fear. Being able to resist things that we fear provides us with feelings of safety, comfort, and security. We feel that it’s safer to brush things under the rug instead of handling them.

But how many things in your life have you missed out on because you feared the outcome? How many relationships did you miss? How many opportunities? How many experiences did you let pass by?

All because of a fear.

Yet somehow we continue to believe that if we keep resisting something, that it will eventually go away. But that is not at all the case. In fact the longer you wait the more you pay in the long run. That conversation you’ve been avoiding with your partner turns into the end of your relationship. The dream job you’ve been waiting for disappears because you waited too long to apply.

So how do we overcome resistance? The first step is facing the truth. You have to be honest with yourself. Start by admitting to and embracing whatever it is that you’ve been avoiding. Once you can acknowledge that your feelings of resistance do exist, you have to step back and figure out the source of your resistance.

Almost always the source of resistance is traced back to some limited belief.

Most of us have these beliefs that if we try something outside of our comfort zone, we are going to fail. We convince ourselves that if we were to take this new job, that it wouldn’t work out. These limited beliefs cause us say things such as, “it’s too hard”, “I can’t do it”, “I’m not ready”, “I might miss out on something else.”

Turn Resistance Into Freedom

When you can embrace your situation, that’s when you find freedom in your feelings and in your life.

While we’re so caught up in resisting something we fear, we don’t realize the consequences. If you keep resisting relationships, how is that going to play out?  If you’ve been spending your whole life resisting to save money by blowing it foolishly, how do you expect your bank account to look in five years?

You really need to focus on the long term impacts that come with resisting something. Surrender and embrace your situation and become comfortable with the outcome, even if it makes you uncomfortable at first.

Once you stop resisting, you can then focus on what your vision is. You can figure out what type of relationship you’re looking for, what type of job makes you the happiest. How you would like your finances to be or how you want your health to be. Remember that what you focus on expands, and in order to create a life of abundance you must first surrender to resistance.

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