5 Steps To Develop A New Perspective In The Face Of Adversity

What if your life turned upside down tomorrow?

What if you woke up tomorrow morning in chronic pain?

What if you lost your job, your house, or your loved ones?

Life would suck right?

This is how most of us deal with the curveballs life throws our way.

When adversity strikes, we think, why me? Why now? What did I do to deserve this?

This mindset allows our situation to consume us and as a result causes us to develop animosity towards everyone and everything in our lives. Some of us even fall into depression believing that our challenges are the beginning to an end.

Even those who see things positively can still make mistakes in the face of adversity.

Luckily, our choices aren’t always between life or death. In these situations you need to step back, review all options, and look at your situation with a new perspective.

Trust me. I’ve been there.

Before I began healing, I was in a negative state of mind. I believed I was dealt a bad hand. My situation seemed hopeless. I felt hopeless.

I really, really just wanted to give up.

However, it wasn’t until I was able to create new perspective that my life changed. It wasn’t one simple event, but an accumulation of events that helped cultivate a new outlook on life, which you can read more about here

Long story short, creating a fresh perspective when dealing with an adverse situation is the key to overcoming it. It’s all about creating a mindset that doesn’t blame external factors for your situation.

Whatever happened, happened and there is no changing it. The only thing you can change is your response to the situation. And once you believe that there could be a lesson within it and you could grow from it, your situation will change and so will your life.

For me, it was a scary decision, because I had no idea if I’d ever heal. I was taking a leap of faith. A leap of faith that could have been a complete waste of time.

But, what did I have to lose? It was worth a shot. And it was one of the best decisions I’ve ever made. Creating a new perspective is the first step to overcoming adversity.

Now being able to reflect back on what I learned, here are five steps that helped me shift my perspective:

1. Your situation doesn’t define you

When I viewed my situation as unchangeable, my crippled state seemed permanent, making me think less of myself. My physical limitations forced me to believe I was only half the man I used to be. We live in a society where we rely heavily on labels to define us. He’s a drunk, she’s a druggie, he’s handicap, she’s fat. Breaking out of this stigma is your first step in creating a new perspective on life.

It doesn’t matter if you’re overweight or in a wheelchair, your current circumstances don’t define who you are as a person. Allowing your situation and the opinions of others define you can put you in a depressive state. You have the ability to change how you view your situation but — only if you want to.

2. See the bigger picture

There is more to life than what you’re currently facing. You still have so much of your life ahead of you. Focusing on changing not only for yourself, but for others makes overcoming your situation bigger than just yourself.

Although some doors may close forever, others may open unexpectedly. Take a moment to imagine how it would feel if you were able to conquer your challenges. Think about what you’d learn along the way, how much you’d grow, who you could help.

Your story could help inspire someone else going through the same challenges. You could become someone’s hero. You’re the author of your own story — it’s up to you to write the next chapter.

3. Discover the gains

Sometimes in severe cases certain aspects of your situation are unchangeable (you may never be able to walk again); however, your perspective is always changeable. You have the ability to let your diagnosis make you bitter, or make you better. Just because you have a physical disability, doesn’t mean you can’t take control of your life in other ways.

Although, it’s not obvious at first, there are always hidden lessons in the adversity you face. Although I lost the ability to do many physical things I loved, I learned how to be more proactive, how to master my mind, take control of my life, my habits, and build strong daily routines

Keep these questions in the back of your mind: What have I gained from this situation? What have I learned? What lessons can I use for the future?

Your answers to these questions will help you reveal your gains.

4. Uncover your values

When you’re pushed to your limits, you’ll be forced to dig deep. You’ll discover parts of yourself that are much deeper than the surface. For me, I discovered values that were dormant. Values I had deep inside, but didn’t use or think about frequently. I no longer prioritized status symbol objects ahead of my health and laid my ego to rest.

You’ll care less about the superficial aspects of life. You won’t worry that your hair isn’t perfect, or that you’re not driving a BMW. Your focus will be on the important things, such as healing and overcoming your challenges. You’ll discover that your ability to change lies within you. Once you uncover these values you can use them as a torch to guide you through your darkest times.

5. Create alternatives

As you continue to develop a new perspective you’ll realize your situation isn’t permanent and that it’s up to you to make it better. Creating alternatives to change your situation is all about being proactive. At this point, you know you can change, your perspective has shifted, you’ve uncovered your values that will keep you on your path and it’s time to take action.

As a result of viewing your situation differently, you’ll begin creating alternatives that you couldn’t see before. Roadblocks that used to halt you, will become speed bumps that you can gracefully pass over. You’ll begin to work on yourself, on your mind, and develop a new set of beliefs that will empower you to move forward. You’ll begin equipping yourself with the tools needed to tackle your adversity head on.